This is COLLABORATION!

Since 2015, Healing Within Studio and EmpowerSurvivors have collaborated on a number of projects. EmpowerSurvivors is a local non-profit peer-led support group for adult survivors of childhood sexual abuse.
Collaboration is an effective tool for reaching more of those in need in our community. It also allows for developing programs that better meet very specific needs. Plus we truly enjoy working with each other.
Building Emotional Resilience led by Liz Stoeckmann is our latest collaborative effort. Liz developed this series as a community service project and is volunteering 100% of her time and energy.

Building Emotional Resilience:
A 4-week iRest Meditation Series
Tuesdays, October 12th to November 9th
6:30 - 7:45 pm CT, online via Zoom
Liz Stoeckmann, certified iRest Meditation instructor
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This much-needed class is open to all. No previous yoga or meditation experience needed. Those living with chronic stress and anxiety are encouraged to attend. Class is beneficial for survivors, veterans, front line responders, and healthcare workers. Sliding fee. Pay as you are able. Proceeds go to EmpowerSurvivors.
Please share with those who may need this info.
Register for the series here:
https://hw-acupuncture.square.site/.../yoga-and.../27...
Photo by Kendra:
Elizabeth Sullivan (EmpowerSurvivors), Aimee Van Ostrand, LAc, and Liz Stoeckmann at our Stillwater studio.

Choosing to disclose, or share, a history of childhood sexual abuse (CSA) is a completely individual decision. While some forms of treatment or healing may involve disclosing the trauma to move forward, this may not be the most beneficial option depending on each survivor’s personality or history. Some individuals may want to share what has happened to them, while others may never choose to tell anyone for the rest of their life. Sometimes, the decision not to disclose a history of abuse may be due to a previous attempt to disclose that did not go as planned. For example, some survivors may have tried to tell someone when they were a child or when they were experiencing the abuse and may have been ignored or not believed. This may cause feelings of fear or a lack of desire to try to open up again.
Many survivors will never disclose the abuseIt has been estimated that nearly 20% of all survivors of childhood sexual abuse will never disclose the abuse, and roughly 60% will not disclose the abuse until at least five years after the first incident.1 Whatever the reason may be for not disclosing an abuse, each individual’s story is their own to tell. However, much they want to share is completely up to them, as well as when, or if, they disclose this information to their friends, family, or partners.


Although this decision and situation can be handled a variety of ways, there are a few things to consider that may help an individual make the decision to disclose a history of abuse, and ideas to make the process as positive and healthy as it can be. These include, but are not limited to:

• Determining your level of trust with the person you are looking to talk to and considering how supportive they are of you.
• Determining what you hope to gain from disclosing your history. Are you looking for support? Are you looking for relief? Consider if the person you’re disclosing to can help you achieve these goals.
• Consider disclosing only when you are in a safe environment without many distractions, and when everyone involved is in a sound state of mind (for example, only when everyone involved is sober).
• Considering if the other person has had a history of abuse or trauma, and how it may affect the way they receive your story.
• Give your partner, friend, or family member space to process what you are telling them. Although the story you tell is yours to share, and you are in control of the conversation, your loved one may need time to process and best choose their words or actions to support you.
• Tell the individual you’re disclosing to what you need from them. If you want them to help you seek treatment, tell them that. If you’re just looking for someone to listen and not ask questions, tell them that as well.
• If there is someone else who knows about your history that you trust and who supports you, consider telling them that you’re planning to disclose to someone else. This way, if anything goes unexpectedly, you have a source of support ready if you need. Even if there’s no one else who knows what you’ve been through, just letting a trusted individual know that there’s something important going on in your life and that you may need a no-questions-asked friend in the near future may be helpful.2

References

1. Tener D and Murphy SB. Adult disclosure of child sexual abuse: A literature review. Trauma, Violence, & Abuse. 4 June 2014; 16(4), 391-400.
2. Should I Tell My Partner? 1in6.org. https://1in6.org/get-information/common-questions/should-i-tell-my-partner Accessed December 27, 2017.

In relation to trauma, a trigger is something that calls to mind a previous traumatic situation and may provoke a flashback of the event. Therapists suggest that triggers can vary person to person, and are dependent on an individual’s personal, and often private, experiences. It may be hard to predict what may be a trigger for you or a loved one, however, the more attention you pay to identifying triggers, the easier it may become to predict, control, or manage their effects.
Types of triggersTriggers can be divided into different categories, including those based on our senses.  Common categories of triggers may include:

• Sound triggers: Such as sounds of anger, sounds similar to those made by an abuser, or sounds related to the incident of abuse, such as a song that was playing at the time.
• Visual triggers: Seeing someone who looks like the abuser, seeing or being in a location that looks like where the trauma occurred, or an incidence of violence or abuse on a television program.
• Smell triggers: Smells that remind an individual of their abuser or the location of an abuse, including smelling alcohol, tobacco, or an abuser’s perfume or cologne.
• Taste triggers: Tastes that are reminiscent of an abuser such as a food they used to eat, a certain alcohol, or any food that may have been eaten around the time of the abuse.
• Touch triggers: An individual may feel triggered when a certain part of their body is touched, or if someone is physically too close to them.

Since triggers are so personal, they can be broken down into any different kind of category and can include virtually anything. Sometimes triggers can be specific emotions or changes in role, such as becoming a parent. There are no silly or nonsensical triggers, nor a limit to how many or how few triggers an individual may be sensitive to.


Managing TriggersThere are various approaches to managing triggers. Although everyone’s triggers may be different, there are common tips that can be used to deal with them in a healthy manner. These include, but are not limited to:

• Practice “grounding” by reminding yourself that you are in the present and are no longer in the traumatic situation. Concentrating on your current breathing, focusing on your immediate surroundings, touching a concrete or comforting item around you, or doing a mental math problem are all ways to ground yourself.
• Engage in positive self-talk by reminding yourself of all you have accomplished and why you are happy to be you. Reminding yourself that the abuse was not your fault and that you’re in control of your life may help you conquer a current trigger.
• Enlist the help of a family member, trusted friend, therapist, or counselor. This can be helpful if a trigger becomes too big to handle on your own, or if you just want extra support.
• Track your triggers. Keeping a mental list, or physical list, of triggers that have caused you distress, and finding ways to take control or avoid them in the future may help you identify a potential trigger later on.
• Find a positive distraction or activity to engage in to get your mind off of the trigger.
• If you feel comfortable sharing, let others know that you may struggle with certain triggers. For example, letting medical professionals know you’re uncomfortable with touch or physical contact.
• Seek immediate help if necessary. Contact a therapist or call a helpline, such as the RAINN (Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network) hotline at 800-656-HOPE (800-656-4673) at any time if you are in crisis.